Heartbreak has never felt so GOOD!
Seriously, though... it's liberating. A huge gravitational shift just occurred in the universe, and I definitely felt it.
So far, November has brought significant transformation to my life. Ironically, a friend sent me this video on November 5th after I ended a 2.5 year relationship with someone I thought was my person. It’s not surprising to me that others are feeling this gravitational shift, too. Since walking away from a relationship I had outgrown, I’ve heard others called off their engagements, ended long-term relationships, quit their jobs, or completely uprooted themselves and moved to a new location.
The universe is calling for us to regroup, and I am embracing its energy. I plan to prioritize family over the upcoming holiday season and hope to find peace in healing younger parts of myself. My agenda for the new year is to head out west, where I will welcome new parts into my life that are desperate to grow. My 2023 vision board is giving cleansing, y’all. Look at it 👇🏼
Can you tell what I’ll be up to in 2023 based on this sneak peak at my vision board? My main priorities for the new year are:
(1) Shift my mindset about physical health and exercise.
(2) Pursue new business opportunities and lay the foundation for my long-term career.
(3) Embrace alone time and heal my relationship with myself.
Resources for heartbreak, or for anyone in need of a relationship pep talk.
As a newly single gal, I recognize change isn’t easy, and loss comes with grief—regardless of how necessary the loss is—which can feel all-consuming. I’m sharing a few resources that brought significant comfort to me in the first few days of my heartbreak:
Almost 30 Podcast, ep. 543 - Growing Together + Individually: A Partnership Talk with Lindsey and Sean. This episode actually led to the end of my relationship. The night before we officially broke up, I listened to this episode and reassured myself that I am deserving of a relationship in which I feel valued and supported. I also realized, thanks to Sean’s vulnerability on the podcast, that there are men out there who do prioritize their mental health and who are committed to their individual healing journeys. Crazy, right? I am a relationship therapist, yet I approached my own love life from a scarcity mindset… but more on that later (I have another surprise coming for you all soon 😉).
Scrolling @lyss on Instagram when I laid alone in bed at night and my thoughts began to spiral. Though I’m not a huge fan of her podcast, I do love the messages she puts out into the world on her personal Instagram page. Think: protective big sister who actually knows what she’s talking about. Lyss shares lessons she learned from her own recent breakup, which helped talk me down during the initial heart-wrenching stage of loss.
Everything from Break Up Bestie… I’m serious. They have a podcast, online courses, workbooks, and more. I highly recommend you check them out if you’re unsure where to start in the healing process following heartbreak.
SO many new chapters to come, including:
(1) The launch of my new podcast, called Emotionally Available. Follow @emotionallyavailablepodcast. on Instagram for some behind-the-scenes action and clips of future episodes! First episode drops December 5th, but there ✨ might ✨ be a teaser coming the week before… hint, hint.
(2) Also the launch of a new online course that I am creating for anyone who finds themselves self-sabotaging new relationships, ending up with “the same type of person” every time, or cycling through speed dates with no success. I hope to launch this course by the new year, just in time for you to add “maintain my dignity while dating” to your list of new year’s resolutions.
(3) A change of scenery in my personal life. I’m leaving New York City in late November, heading home to spend the holidays with family, then moving out west to Southern California. I am so ready for this transition. Ironically, I had plans to move to Laguna in May 2020, until I stumbled upon an affordable one-bedroom apartment in the heart of Greenwich Village—those that get it, get it—that I couldn’t pass up, and decided to stay in the city for “just one more year.” Lo and behold, I met my ex only two days later, and stayed for almost three more years. It’s safe to say I am ready for California.
* To any of my clients who just went into a full-blown panic after learning that I am moving to California, please note that I will still be your therapist… I’m keeping New York hours and licensure! You’re not getting rid of me just yet. 😉
I was pushed far out of my comfort zone this month as a dating and relationship therapist who was actively going through a breakup herself, but the strength I received from this community is astounding. Unbeknownst to my clients, many of their stories informed my own decision to end my relationship. I cannot possibly begin to express—but also legally can’t due to HIPAA, lol—my gratitude, in addition to my comfort in knowing this work is my calling.
So many exciting things to come, and I can’t wait to share those experiences with you all ✨